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J. McLAUGHLIN MONOGRAMMED DUFFEL BAG GIVEAWAY

J. McLaughlin monogrammed duffel // Madewell desert boots (similar)

I am so excited to be hosting a giveaway with J. McLaughlin! They are a great go-to brand for preppy essentials and I'm head over heels for my new monogrammed duffel (so is our dog Coach!). Who wants to win one for fall trips and holiday travel? Enter by following the steps in the Rafflecopter widget below and I will contact the winner by email on Friday. Good luck!

WEEKEND WARDROBE


I swear we skipped fall and went straight to winter in Connecticut. I may or may not be wearing my quilted vest at my desk ;) Here's what I'd like to be wearing this weekend... Faux fur, leopard, and stripes, oh my!

P.S. Thanks everyone for your thoughtful comments on yesterday's post. Girl power! :)


THOUGHTS ON SELF-EMPLOYMENT AND SUPPORTING ONE ANOTHER.


Let's talk.

Lately I've read a couple blog posts about the rise of self-employment among bloggers. This is a movement I am proud to be part of and I love seeing the various ventures my friends have launched off of their blogs: consulting gigs, e-commerce sites, interior design firms, styling businesses, and more.

It saddens me then to read backlash from people who write public, negative, and thinly-veiled commentary about those who have left salaried positions to strike out on their own with limited business education and job experience. The life of an entrepreneur (one who organizes, manages, and assumes the risks of a business or enterprise) isn't the right path for everybody. I get that. But if it is your chosen path, who's to tell you you're wrong for pursuing it? While I like to think that my personal choices are just that — personal — I do feel compelled to reflect on the subject at hand.

I started blogging in 2009, graduated from Bucknell in 2011 with a major in French, and launched my e-commerce site in early 2012. My job experience at the time was limited to high school summer jobs in retail, college summer internships with Ralph Lauren and Jonathan Adler, a post-graduate internship with Rue Magazine, a stint in public relations in New York, and freelance writing work for Matchbook Magazine. I took a handful of business classes in college but nothing to suggest I'd be running a small business after graduation.

I'm honest about those things and always have been. I've never pretended to know more than I do and I've certainly never been shy about asking for help when I need it. I meet with my SCORE mentor every few weeks, have monthly Skype calls with fellow bloggers and small business owners, and just wrapped up a month-long business workshop to address questions I had going into my first holiday season. I run things by my amazing parents on a daily basis and have an accountant who handles some of the financial processes I never mastered in school. Everything I've learned about buying wholesale, managing inventory, and packaging orders has been learned entirely by trial and error.

And you know what? I'm really, really proud of everything I've learned and accomplished in the past year. Quitting my job and starting a small business wasn't a decision I made lightly and I acknowledge that it wouldn't work for everyone. For me, I was deeply, genuinely unhappy with the path I was on and I made a big change. If it was foolish of me to leave a job I hated and start something of my own, it would have been ten times as foolish for me to keep doing something that made me miserable, day in and day out. I'm cool with people who have desk jobs, people who raise their families full-time, and people who march to the beat of their own drum, whatever that entails. Blogging has opened up a world of opportunities for me and I commend anyone who's taking similar opportunities and running with them. Whether that means landing your dream job, relishing a creative outlet outside of work, or, yes, launching a small business, I commend and support you.

Launching a small business has been a risk, financially, personally, and professionally. It's something I always intended to do, whether at age 22 or 52. Realizing it would never be the perfect time and weary of spending my days wondering, "What if?", I went for it. I took that risk and I'm working my ass off every single day to make it worth it. I won't glorify the hard work or the long hours, but I love what I do and I'm more grateful than you know to each and every customer and reader who have lent their support. And if sales taper off after a year or five years, I'll change course and reevaluate all over again. I'm less afraid of that now than I was a year ago.

Let's applaud one another's choices, support them if we like, and keep it to ourselves if we don't. Madeleine Albright said, "There's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women." I think we can all agree the world is a better place when we do.

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I BOUGHT A BAG...


You may recall that one of the tasks on my 101 in 1001 list was to invest in a "grown-up" handbag and if you follow me on Twitter you know that I think I've found the one! I bought this bag during Tory Burch's friends and family sale over the weekend and I can hardly wait for it to show up on my doorstep. Hopefully it's absolutely perfect and you'll be seeing it in many outfit posts to come ;) What's your everyday bag? Is it a purchase you saved up for? Do any of you carry the bag I just ordered? Fill me in!

BLANK CANVAS

I'm dying to know: if you could completely start over in your home (budget be damned) how would you decorate? A painted ceiling? A pink sofa? A striped powder room? Let's hear it!

OUTFIT {OFF TO THE MOVIES}


This weekend was too cold for sandals and just a little too warm for boots, which means my obsession with ballet flats was in full swing. I wore this outfit to see Butter with my mom and sister (loved the company, didn't love the movie). Sole Society sent me these adorable glittery flats and they're great quality for what they cost — just $49.95! They release a new pair of shoes every day and right now they're offering all Design Darling readers in the U.S. $20 off your first purchase with code DARLING20 through October 31. Check it out and let me know what you find!

I'D LIKE TO SPEND MY SUNDAY HERE...

Have you ever seen a prettier home/pool/yard/anything? Way to go, Ali Schwarz.

P.S. As always, lots more exterior inspiration here!

QUOTE DU JOUR

Wishing you a weekend that's brimming with adventure! A few noteworthy links:

- Absolutely drooling over the contrast trim on this skirt.
- Loved every page of Matchbook's October issue, but especially the new checklists.
- Making my way through this list of 12 TED talks every entrepreneur should watch. 
- Finally remembering to bring my business cards thanks to this pretty new case!
- Totally hooked on this blog full of inspiration for tiny apartments.

Have a fun link you think Design Darling readers would love? Leave it in a comment below!


WHY DON'T YOU...?

...paint your nails navy blue? Joanna recommends Essie's "Midnight Cami."
...monogram a sweater? This one will cost you a pretty penny but you can get the same look by adding a $10 monogram to this sweater.
...pair classic navy stripes with playful gold baubles? (And check out my list of must-have jewelry here!)
...class up your morning coffee run? I'm eyeing this J.Crew jacket to recreate Olivia Palermo's effortless look.
...tie a bow in your hair? The weekend is the perfect time to go all-out girly. 

My brother and sister are coming home from college this weekend and I couldn't be more excited to catch up and spend some quality time together! What are your plans? Have a good one!


10 CLASSIC PIECES OF JEWELRY EVERY GIRL SHOULD OWN

I'm so excited to be featured on Charm & Chain's website this week sharing ten favorite pieces of jewelry. I adore the Bounkit lapis earrings and the Lulu Frost code ring and encourage you to check out the full post here! What's one piece of jewelry you think every girl should own?!

P.S. They're offering 25% off site-wide with code FRIENDS12 this week!